STOP KISSING FROGS!
By Céleste Perrino-Walker
Have you ever wished that a spotlight from the heavens would beam down on the one perfect guy who was meant just for you, and then a loud voice would proclaim, “This is the one”? It’s not surprising. Most girls and many women do too. It’s usually a wish they have immediately after the last Mr. Right turned out to be oh-so-wrong.
Believing that you have one true soulmate out there, someone created especially for you, someone you are destined to meet someday, is a common idea. As the saying goes, “You have to kiss a lot of ugly frogs before you meet the handsome prince.” But what if there was a way you could bypass kissing all the ugly frogs and skip right to Prince Charming? Wouldn’t that be awesome?
Well, guess what—you can! But before you do, there’s something you need to know. Just as there are many ugly frogs, there are many Prince Charmings. You are not looking for the one single man who will make you perfectly happy and fulfilled. Instead, you’re looking for a perfectly nice guy who has the potential of becoming your better—or at least your other—half. Sometimes these guys will look like frogs at first glance—just as the prince in the fairy tale appeared as a frog.
So how, you might ask, do I figure out if a guy is a potential Prince Charming and not just a plain old frog? That’s a very good question. Here’s a little secret: You can put them to the test, the True Love Test. In the Bible a man named Paul wrote a letter to his friends telling them what love looked like. He said: “Love is kind and patient, never jealous, boastful, proud, or rude. Love isn’t selfish or quick tempered. It doesn’t keep a record of wrongs that others do. Love rejoices in the truth, but not in evil” (1 Corinthians 13:4-6, CEV).∗ So if you want to know if you’ve found true love, put it to the test. If you write your crush’s name in the blanks, will it be the truth? Does it describe him? Try it and find out:
“_________ is kind and patient, never jealous, boastful, proud, or rude. _________ isn’t selfish or quick tempered. _________ doesn’t keep a record of wrongs that others do. _________ rejoices in the truth, but not in evil.”
If he passes, congratulations! You may have found a prince in disguise. Because everyone puts their best foot forward at the beginning of a relationship, you may not know right away if you’ve really found Prince Charming, so keep testing him. Putting your crushes to the test will help you skip kissing a whole lot of frogs, and so will asking God to point out “Mr. Right.”. Who else would want you to find the right person to share your life with more than God?
But remember: Love is a two-way street. It’s not enough to find someone to love you. You have to love them in return. The Prince Charmings out there aren’t just sitting around waiting for you to find them. They are looking for their own true love too. The prince is only one half of the relationship. The princess—that would be you—is the other half. Are you ready to take the real test? Put your own name in the blanks above. How did you do?
Are you ready for real love? I’m not talking about the fake melodrama you see on television or in the movies. Real love is about give and take. It can be breathtaking and also heartbreaking. But the one thing it will never do is quit. If you want to experience true love, you can’t give up on your relationship the first time there’s a problem or your crush shows poor judgement. People are human, and they mess up; even the most charming of princes make mistakes. (To be clear, you should never stay in a relationship with any guy who hurts you verbally, emotionally, or physically.)
And They Lived . . .
Everyone wants the storybook ending, but living happily ever after isn’t so much about finding your perfect match as it is building a relationship with another human being who has flaws just as you do. But love, real love, the kind that does last forever, is about learning to overlook mistakes, to forgive when necessary, and to keep moving forward, because happily ever after isn’t a destination you reach; it’s a journey you share.
∗ Scriptures quoted from CEV are from the Contemporary English Version, copyright © American Bible Society 1991, 1995. Used by permission.
Tags: True Love, Girl Issues, Relationships, Christian Life
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